Your Desires and Dreams: The Source of Suffering and Pain
Your Desires and Dreams: The Source of Suffering and Pain
Editor’s Note
In this profound exploration, Dr. Parth delves into the wisdom that challenges the very foundation of our modern-day struggles—our attachment to dreams and desires. This insight, inspired by timeless mystical understanding, compels us to reexamine how we live. The clarity of this perspective and the transformative power it holds will leave you with goosebumps of realization.
The problem with your pain and suffering is not that life is difficult, but that you have set up a cinema of your own, outside of what nature has arranged for you. Your dreams, your desires—they are your creations, your promises to yourself and others. And when you chase after them, it is the height of ahamkara—your ego's fancy imagination about what life should be.
A desire is nothing but a misunderstanding, a distortion of reality. Once you see this, you will naturally settle into the present moment, fully attentive, fully alive. Fear, anxiety, psychosis—these are not some external problems. They arise because you are constantly rowing against the flow of life, trying to carve a path where none is needed.
Life is not asking you to dream or desire. It is already a phenomenon beyond your imagination. Yet, you believe your dream is essential. You see, a dream is a promise you made to yourself. A desire is a promise you made to others. When the dream within you shatters, you experience pain. When the desire you promised to others cannot be fulfilled, you experience suffering. But both arise from one thing—the misunderstanding that dreaming or desiring is necessary for living.
What you call destiny is not something imposed upon you from the outside. Your destiny is not written by someone else; it is shaped by your deepest will. But the moment you start dreaming and desiring, you postpone what is already naturally flowing towards you. Your dreams and desires are not taking you forward; they are postponing the life you truly seek.
If you allow your dreams and desires to collapse, if you have the courage to let the structures you’ve built crumble, you will see life taking you exactly where it is meant to go. What you have always wanted, your highest possibility, will naturally manifest. The problem is, you do not trust life to bring it to you. Instead, you interfere, delay, and disrupt the process.
Destiny does not mean things will happen against your will. It means that your true will—the one beyond your desires and dreams—has already set the course. So, should you postpone what is destined for you, or should you prepone it? The choice is simple. Stop rowing. Let the river of life carry you. Everything you seek is already on its way. Stop creating obstacles in its path, and you will find yourself exactly where you have always wanted to be.
What you call your desires and dreams are nothing but impressions—impressions that you have gathered from the world around you. They are not yours. They belong to the circumstances of your life, the environment you have grown up in, the society that surrounds you. These desires are like borrowed clothes. But the trouble is, you have worn them for so long that you have begun to believe they are your skin.
When I sat in that room for a rest (refering to his Enlightenment day) having just finished my work, I wasn’t seeking anything in particular. I was not thinking of the past or the future. I simply sat there, still, with no agenda. In that simple moment of just being, I began to notice something profound. The boundaries that I thought defined me—the ideas, the opinions, the knowledge I had gathered—started dissolving. What I thought was “me” was no longer there, and yet I was fully alive, fully aware.
What you gather—be it your body, your mind, your identity—it is useful, yes, but only as a tool. If you mistake the tool for yourself, then life becomes distorted. The very mechanism that is meant to enhance your experience will trap you. Whether you gather wealth, knowledge, or even spiritual ideas, they will work against you if you do not realize that they are not you.
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This is why the pursuit of the so-called "ultimate" often becomes fanatical. When you cling to a belief—whether it is physical, psychological, moral, social, existential, or spiritual—it will inevitably warp your perception because you are trying to mold life into the shape of your conditioning. But life does not fit into the frame of your desires. Life is much larger than that. It will shatter that frame, and if you are too attached to it, you will break with it.
So, the question is not about what you desire or dream. The question is—do you have the courage to simply sit and dismantle all that you have gathered? To not seek comfort in the limited but to throw yourself into the vastness of the unknown? This is not about renouncing life but embracing it fully, as it is, not as you wish it to be. Only then will your perception clear. Only then will you know life as it truly is—not as you imagine, not as you hope, not as you fear, but as it is. Only then will you touch the ultimate.
Goosebumps Q&A
Q: Why do we feel the need to dream and desire if life is already flowing perfectly?
A: It’s a misunderstanding. You believe that your involvement, your plans, and your dreams are necessary for life to unfold. But life is already a grand phenomenon, complete in itself. Your interference comes from a lack of trust in the intelligence of life.
Q: How do I know if my desires are postponing my true destiny?
A: Look within. If your desires are causing fear, anxiety, or suffering, it means you’re going against the natural flow. When you let go of desires, life’s intelligence takes over and leads you to exactly what you need.
Q: What happens when I let my dreams and desires collapse?
A: What collapses is not life, but the illusions you’ve created about it. When the unnecessary falls away, what remains is your true will, your destiny, unfolding without resistance.
Q: Isn’t it scary to let go of what I’ve built so far?
A: It is not about destroying what you’ve built, but about surrendering the need to control life. Trust is the antidote to fear. When you allow life to flow as it will, what you truly seek comes to you effortlessly.
Editor’s Closing Thought:
The essence of this wisdom lies in surrendering your attachment to dreams and desires and trusting the flow of life. The more you try to control, the more you suffer. The moment you let go, life reveals its true beauty—free of struggle, fear, and anxiety. Let go, and witness how life transforms into what you’ve always wanted it to be.
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