Why Do We Feel Independent When We Start Earning Money?

Q: Parth, before earning money I felt emotionally and practically dependent on people around me. But once I started earning, that dependence reduced, and I began feeling more ‘myself’. Why does money change our inner experience so much? Is dependence actually about others, or is it something deeper within us?

Parth: Because money doesn’t just buy things — it buys distance.

The moment you earn your own money, a few deep things happen inside you (most people never notice this consciously):

1. Survival anxiety reduces
Before money, your nervous system is quietly asking: “Who will take care of me?”
The first income answers that question. Even if the amount is small, the body relaxes. That relaxation feels like independence.

2. Dependency shifts from people to system
Earlier you depended on:

• parents

• family

• partner

• society’s approval

When you earn, the dependency moves to money itself.
So you feel “independent from people,” even though you’re now dependent on currency. The mind celebrates this shift.

3. Choice increases — and choice feels like freedom
Money creates options:

• where to go

• what to eat

• whom to say yes or no to

The mind confuses options with freedom. So it says, “I’m independent now.”

4. Ego gets a new identity
Earning activates a subtle thought:

“I can stand on my own.”

That thought strengthens the doer identity —
and the ego loves it. Independence becomes a feeling, not a reality.

5. Memory of helplessness gets overwritten
Human memory carries a deep imprint of childhood dependence.
Earning money temporarily silences that memory.
What you feel is not independence — it’s relief from old dependence.

Here’s the twist most people miss (this aligns deeply with your Amrqh® human-science view):

Money doesn’t make you independent.
It only changes what you depend on.

True independence is not:

• earning money

• leaving family

• not needing help

True independence is:

when your sense of security does not come from outside —
not from people, not from money, not from roles.

That’s why:

• rich people panic when markets fall

• high earners still feel insecure

• money gives freedom until it doesn’t

So yes, the feeling is real —
but it is psychological independence, not existential freedom.

Q: Parth, I notice that whenever I start earning my own money, there is a strong feeling of independence within me. I feel less dependent on my parents, family, and people around me. But at the same time, I also see that I am still deeply influenced by my body, mind, emotions, and external situations. So is this sense of independence real, or is it just another form of dependence? And what does true independence or mukti actually mean in this context?

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Parth: See, when you say “I am independent,” most people are actually saying, “Now I don’t have to ask my parents for money.” That is not independence — that is just a change of dependency.

You earn a little money and suddenly you feel powerful. Why?
Because now your survival seems secured. But tell me —
are you independent of your body?
If the body falls sick, where does your independence go?

Are you independent of your mind?
One wrong thought, one fear, one memory — and your freedom collapses.

Are you independent of your emotions?
One person ignores you, one word hurts you, and you are no longer “independent.”

Are you independent of your energies?
If you wake up dull tomorrow morning, where is your freedom?

So what kind of independence is this?

Right now, your body, mind, emotions, and energies are constantly reacting to:

• parents

• partners

• society

• nation

• economy

• planet

• situations

You may think you are independent, but actually you are deeply dependent upon life behaving the way you want.

This is not freedom.
This is well-managed dependence.

Mukti does not mean you earn more, escape your family, or stand alone in the world.
Mukti means:

you are no longer dependent on anything that you know.

Not dependent on your body.
Not enslaved to your mind.
Not dragged by emotion.
Not shaken by energy fluctuations.
Not even attached to the idea of independence.

When you are dependent on something, you can be threatened.
When you are dependent on everything, you are fragile.
When you are dependent on nothing — you are free.

So real independence is not about standing against life.
Real independence is when life cannot bind you.

That is freedom.
Everything else is just a comforting story the mind tells itself.

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Editor's Note: Dr. Parth (b. 1991 — ) is regarded as an enlightened being, mystic, and visionary, whose work bridges ancient wisdom with modern science. Since 2015, he has been engaged in humanitarian service, awakening human consciousness, and pioneering new dimensions in healing and well-being. Through his presence and guidance, he inspires countless seekers — not as a master to be followed, but as a friend. He is not merely a man of science; he is a bridge between the known and the unknown. Dr. Parth Kalita is the originator of Ether Technologies and Shoonya-based Applied Human Sciences, with over a decade of research, white papers, and documented work, including institutional and governmental engagements in India and international dissemination. Professionally, he is a neurologist, with research spanning space science and neurology, making him a Research Neuro-Space Scientist. With his unparalleled clarity and insight, he serves as a transformational catalyst, empowering individuals to harness both inner and outer resources. Under his guidance, countless people have elevated their lives in profound and lasting ways. With depth and vision, Dr. Parth introduces a new dimension of health — one that transcends conventional treatment and enters the realm of true well-being. His work is for those who seek not merely answers, but transformation; for those who wish to move beyond medicine and into life itself; for those ready to awaken to a higher possibility. ➡️Step into the journey of consciousness with Dr. Parth.