Why Jealousy feels bad by Parth
🌿 Jealousy: The Crime of Separation
— Insight by Parth
Let me tell you — jealousy is not what you think it is.
People believe jealousy is about what the other person has, or does, or becomes. No, no — that is just the surface. Jealousy is a far deeper wound. It is the pain of separation — not from the other, but from your own existence.
Existence is not fragmented, it is one. You are not a loose piece floating in some cosmic vacuum. You are part of the grand wholeness — not metaphorically, but existentially. But the moment you try to cut yourself out of this oneness, the very existence that gave birth to you, nurtures you, sustains you… will slap you back into reality. That slap is what you are calling jealousy.
Let me explain.
You become close to someone — a friend, a companion, a partner — and slowly, you begin to dissolve. You share thoughts, jokes, food, even clothes. You begin to feel like you're one organism. That’s beautiful. That’s what friendship is supposed to be — a taste of unity.
But one day, the other begins to grow. They start changing. Evolving. Rising. And suddenly, the ego starts trembling. “Wait,” it says, “they’re moving ahead... What about me?” What was once unity now feels like separation.
You used to call yourselves The Three Musketeers. But now, one of you is being handed the sword of transformation, and the other two are sulking behind, afraid of being left out. Not because they don’t want to grow — but because they didn’t prepare to grow. And let me tell you: existence does not let you pass without earning your mark. And no — you can't bribe it with charm, gossip, or social media likes.
This moment, where you feel separated by someone else’s growth — that’s still human. But what you do next... that’s where the game turns vulgar.
If you begin to resist their rise — by being cold, by withholding your blessings, by behaving like your joy is hurt by their expansion — you are committing a crime. Not against them. But against your own humanity. Against your own possibility. Because now, you’re not just separated — you’re divided.
And this division is not just psychological — it becomes spiritual cancer. You begin to shape your entire life around not feeling left behind. You dress differently, talk differently, even smile with strategy — not joy. Why? Because somewhere deep inside, you are afraid. Afraid not of losing your friend — but of facing your own untouched potential.
Jealousy is just a sign. A divine signal saying:
“You are not separate. You were never separate. Stop pretending to be.”
Unless you dissolve this illusion of separation, unless you start seeing yourself in the other's rise — you will remain trapped. Not because someone else is moving forward. But because you have forgotten how to move inward.
The only cure is realization.
The realization that you are not a piece of existence — you are existence.
When one rises, you rise.
When one blooms, your garden expands.
When one reaches the mountain, your sky gets bigger.
Let jealousy become your teacher. Not your jailor.
And if you truly want to evolve, the next time someone around you begins to grow — clap the loudest. Not for them. But for you. Because if you can celebrate someone else’s rise, you are no longer separate.
You are finally back home.
Tuesday, April 22, 2024
When Someone Is Jealous of You, Why Do You Feel Bad?
Questioner: Parth, I have a question. When someone is jealous of me—without me doing anything wrong—I still end up feeling bad. Why does it hurt even though I’ve done nothing to deserve it?
Jealousy is not just an emotion—it is a distortion of energy. And when someone carries that distortion toward you, it touches you. Even if no word is spoken, even if no act is committed—you feel it. That means you are alive, aware, and no longer living in a bubble. But let’s go deeper.
Jealousy Is a Poison—But Not Yours to Drink
When someone is jealous of you, it’s important to understand: they are not reacting to you, they are reacting to their own limitations. Your growth, your success, your joy—it reflects to them everything they have not yet become. So, jealousy is not admiration twisted—it is insecurity exposed.
But why does it make you feel bad?
Because you have not yet separated your inner experience from others' outer reactions. This is the first bondage: making your joy dependent on someone else’s approval.
This is slavery. Subtle, silent, and socially accepted—but slavery nonetheless.
Feeling It Doesn’t Mean It’s Yours
Now don’t misunderstand me. Feeling their jealousy doesn’t mean you are weak. In fact, it means you are becoming sensitive—not just emotionally, but energetically. You are learning to feel beyond the visible. But sensitivity is not the same as vulnerability.
No. You dodge. You cleanse. You move on.
But many of you are still carrying the toxins of others inside your emotional body—thinking it’s compassion, or guilt, or humility.
No, it’s just confusion.
Don’t Dim Your Light for Someone Else’s Shadows
You must decide: are you going to walk carefully so no one trips over their own shadow? Or will you walk fully, fearlessly, and let others rise to match your pace?
A person who is truly alive will shine. And that light may burn the eyes of those still hiding in darkness. But should you dim yourself to keep them comfortable?
No. If you do that, you are not being kind—you are being cruel. Cruel to your own potential. Cruel to the intelligence that shaped you. And cruel to those who, instead of rising, are sinking into comparison.
The Way Forward: Grace, Not Guilt
So what should you do?
Just this: Do not hate the one who is jealous. That makes you like them.
But also—do not carry their emotion like it is your burden. That makes you worse.
Instead, walk on. With clarity. With compassion. And with fire in your spine.
Be kind to the jealous, but never shrink for them. Let your very presence be a possibility—not a threat. If they choose to rise, help them. If they choose to rot, let them. But you—you keep walking.
Your inner state is your sacred ground. Don’t let uninvited footprints trample that space.
A Final Word
If someone is jealous of you, it is a sign that something within you is worth noticing. But don’t live to be noticed—live to be liberated.
Don’t just shine for others. Burn within. That fire… it will never feel bad.
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Sunday, June 2, 2023
When Someone Is Jealous of You, Why Do You Feel Bad?
Questioner: Parth, I have a question. When someone is jealous of me—without me doing anything wrong—I still end up feeling bad. Why does it hurt even though I’ve done nothing to deserve it?
Parth:
It’s a good sign that you’ve begun to feel this—not just with your emotions, but with your inner sensors. You are no longer just interacting with people—you’re beginning to interact with their energies.
Jealousy is not merely a reaction. It’s an energetic distortion. When someone carries that toward you, it doesn’t stay inside them—it reaches. It leaks. It touches. And you feel it. Why? Because you're no longer asleep.
Jealousy Is a Poison—But You Don’t Have to Drink It
Understand this clearly: jealousy is never about you. It’s about them—what they couldn’t become, what they couldn’t achieve, what they couldn’t accept. Your growth reflects their stagnation. Your joy reveals their inner absence.
But here’s the problem: you feel bad because somewhere within, you are still wired to seek harmony, even at the cost of your truth.
Don’t let the emotional weather of others become the climate inside you.
Feeling Their Emotion Doesn’t Mean It’s Yours
You’re becoming sensitive, and that’s good. The world needs more people who can feel without reacting, respond without absorbing. But there’s a subtle trap: when you feel deeply, you may begin to assume responsibility for what you sense.
You feel someone’s jealousy and start questioning:
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“Did I show off?”
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“Did I make them feel small?”
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“Maybe I should hold back next time.”
No. You shouldn’t.
This guilt is not humility. It’s self-betrayal wearing a soft face.
Don’t Shrink for Shadows
Let’s be clear: you are not here to walk gently so people don’t trip over their own shadows.
You are here to rise. To shine. To burn if necessary.
Your presence will make some uncomfortable—not because you harmed them, but because you reminded them of everything they haven’t dared to become.
Now ask yourself: will you dim your radiance so others don’t feel insecure? Or will you blaze, and let them choose—to rise, or to retreat?
That choice is not yours to make. But your light is yours to live.
Respond with Grace, Not Guilt
When you encounter jealousy, don’t retaliate with arrogance. Don’t respond with guilt either. Respond with grace.
You don’t owe anyone an apology for your evolution.
Walk with kindness, but walk tall.
Let your stillness unsettle them. Let your progress provoke them. But let your inner clarity remain untouched.
When someone is jealous of you, it's not an attack—it’s a mirror. Don’t get lost in their reflection. Stay rooted in your reality.
In A Nutshell
Jealousy is a shadow people cast when they see a light too bright to ignore.
Be the light anyway.
And if you feel bad—don’t worry. That feeling is not a weakness. It’s a whisper from within reminding you to choose your inner state over others’ opinions.
Burn true. Burn quiet. But burn all the same.
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